Michael de Montaigne once said, "Marriage may be compared to a cage; the birds outside despair to get in and those within despair to get out."
Earlier today, I was faced with the greatest question in my life - to wed or not to wed? To marry or not to marry? I have always thought that the two has a difference.
For me, weddings connote festivity. They only chronicle the superficial part of a relationship. They are a ritual, a mere symbolic ceremony. But, I would be a hypocrite to deny that I did not dream of having a Prince-Charles-and-Princess-Diana type of wedding. I believe I am the typical daydreaming girl who hopes for a knight in shining armour who would sweep me off my feet.
On the other hand, marriages refer to the responsibility part of getting hitched. I have always believed that getting married means more than getting wedded. Sure, Prince Charles and Princess Diana had the best wedding, attended to by many prominent people, enticed the hearts of many other Cinderella-aspiring girls. But, all they had was a ceremony. While their wedding ended happily, their marriage started suffering brutal blows and eventually ended, too.
I am sure - I want more than that.
On the other hand, marriages refer to the responsibility part of getting hitched. I have always believed that getting married means more than getting wedded. Sure, Prince Charles and Princess Diana had the best wedding, attended to by many prominent people, enticed the hearts of many other Cinderella-aspiring girls. But, all they had was a ceremony. While their wedding ended happily, their marriage started suffering brutal blows and eventually ended, too.
I am sure - I want more than that.
Once again, I made a choice. The day after next, I am going to get hitched, to get wedded. And I am hoping against hope that while the celebration of my wedding ends, my marriage will continue to flourish - amidst all tempests and temptations. I know nothing comes easy anymore.
I am praying to God that whatever has led me to commit today, I hope that it will still be there in the coming years (throughout my lifetime), that is, the love I have for my husband-to-be. I am praying to Him that He may always keep the grounds of our relationship fertile, that we may not wither whatever the passing and changing of seasons may bring. I hope God will not allow anyone or anything to put any asunder between us.
Two days from now, I hope to be married. Not just wedded. That if marriage is indeed a cage, I hope that I would never despair to get out of it, but rather, embrace it as a place where I am truly happy and contented.
03/28/10
1:55 am
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